Mansurah Isah, a former Kannywood actress said that one of the reasons marriages fail is because women check their husbands’ phones, adding that sometimes she has “to be blind, deaf and dumb to survive her marriage”
Mansurah, who is married to top Kannywood actor, Sani Danja, stated this in an interview with Daily Trust.
When asked about her transition to charity services, She said
Like you know, I have encountered a lot of controversies and have been through a lot in life. I’m sorry to say this but, in the northern part of Nigeria, when a woman gets married things become a lot different for her. She no longer gets some of the things she desires and deserves. This has a lot to do with our culture and religion. When culture does not stop you, religion will stop you and what religion does not stop you from, culture will stop you. So these are some of the challenges women are facing in the north.
However, for you to be able to make it after marriage, you have to fight a lot of obstacles, you have to work hard, for you to be able to get what you really want and Alhamdullila, I’ve gotten what I want. I fought for myself, my life and future in order to come back because even in my family, there was a lot of crises. I was told ‘you won’t do this; you are a married woman now’. It is apparent that there is no way a man can take care of a woman 100 percent. There are some things you cannot tell the man you really want because you feel shy of demanding for them.
There are times when a man may be broke and not able to fend for his family but if the woman is working, she will raise him. These are the kind of things I want our people to think about when they want to stop the married woman from working, especially when that work is not haram in the religious setting.
I was affected because wherever I went for a job or applied for one, and another girl who is not married goes for the same job, definitely I will not get that job, even when they know that I am more qualified and can deliver better, simply because I am married.
Asked if she succeeded in her business because her husband supported her, She said
I know I succeeded because he supported me, and he too has been having challenges because people tell him that he is ‘mijin tace’ because of the way he is supporting me by giving me the liberty to live my life.
Before he married me, he knew the kind of person I am. He knew how hard working I am, how I tried to make ends meet because I am not the kind of person that will fold my hands and wait for him to do everything for me and our children.
And thank God Alhamdullilah, one of the reasons why my husband is supporting me totally is what happened when he had an accident in which he broke his two legs and arms. That episode really changed his perception because we suffered a lot then. All the money we gathered was used for surgery to make him walk again.
From that moment, my husband realized the importance of a man allowing his wife to work because that time I used to go to Dubai to buy kitchen equipment and bring them to Abuja to sell. The money really helped us a lot and when my husband got back on his feet, he told me ‘Mansurah, I wouldn’t want you to sit down at home. You can go out and work but anything our religion does not allow you to do, please don’t do it. I give you 100 percent support’.
I know it’s not every man that can do this, so I thank him all the time and he knows that allowing me to work gives him a lot of freedom. This is the kind of thing that makes our marriage work. This is what makes us the best couple in the north.
When asked the secret to her 11-year-old marriage Mansurah said:
The nickname people call my husband is mai buhu buhu loosely translated as somebody that has plenty women. Being married to Sani Danja is not a day’s job and it is not easy at all. Sometimes, I have to be blind, deaf and dumb to survive in this marriage.
He is a star, and apart from that he is handsome and rich. These are the qualities a lot of women want in a man. A lot of girls beg to date him.
I was able to build a lot of patience to understand the kind of man I married. I married a celebrity because I was also a celebrity and sometimes fans can make crazy remarks of you.
What do you expect from a man whose religion permits to marry four wives? One of the key things that make our marriage stand is that I have never in my life gone through his phones.
You know, the act of women checking their husband’s phones is one of the main reasons why marriages collapse. When a woman checks her husband’s phone and sees something she’s not supposed to see, it will really affect her, and by extension the marriage. But when you stay away from your husband’s phone, his laptop and some personal stuff, you will have a very peaceful marriage. I think those are the kind of things that has made our marriage last.
Fans Want DJ Arafat’s Funeral Held Inside Stadium
Thousands of heartbroken fans of late Ivory Coast musician, DJ Arafat, have signed an online petition asking the country’s Ministry of Culture to use their biggest stadium to hold his funeral service.
The 33-year-old artistes died on Monday morning after a motorbike accident in Abidjan, the country’s capital.
Originally known as Ange Didier Huon, DJ Arafat was famous for his energetic dance steps and scintillating brand of coupé-décalé sound that left fans begging for more.
Over 65,000 people have signed the petition on change.org asking for the Félix Houphouet Boigny Stadium to be used for the funeral, according to a BBC report on Wednesday.
Nicki Minaj reveals she and boyfriend Kenneth Petty will be married in ‘About 80 Days’
Nicki Minaj and her boyfriend, Kenneth Petty are set to get married
On Monday, August 12, the 36-year-old rapper revealed on the new episode of her Queen Radio Show that she and boyfriend Kenneth Petty will be married in “about 80 days.”
She explained that she and Petty filed for the marriage license and they still had to pick it up and she was traveling, by the time she came back, they had to renew it again.
“From that time, you have 90 days to get married. That was about a week ago, so now I have about 80 days,” Minaj shared.
Nicki also said that she and Petty will celebrate their union with a small, intimate ceremony and will plan a big wedding later.
“I have to work on my album and I have a lot to focus on that I don’t want to do the big wedding now. We’ll do the big wedding later,” Minaj said.
“I’ll be married before my album comes out, but will have my wedding after the album comes out. Before the 90 days is over, yes, I will be married.”
“I’m very happy about that because my baby makes me so happy,” she added
Back in June, Nicki who started dating Petty in December 2018 confirmed they had gotten a marriage license.
“We did get our marriage license,” Minaj said on Queen Radio at the time. “I think I have what I was striving for, just happiness. It was so hard to get to a happy place. Now that I’m there, I don’t want to compromise that for anyone or anything.”
The couple met when Nicki was a 17-year-old living in Queens, and they rekindled their romance last year.
BBNaija housemate Khafi faces sack by MET Police as she’s being investigated after sex on the show
Big Brother Naija housemate and Met Police officer, Khafi Kareem, 29, is being investigated for having sex on the show despite warning from her bosses not to take part.
A Met spokesman said last night: “A PC, attached to the Met’s transformation command, requested permission to take part in a reality television entertainment show in Nigeria. Permission was not given.
“The Met is aware the officer has since appeared on the show without authority.
“The Directorate of Professional Standards has been informed and will be carrying out an investigation into the circumstances.
“The Met does not support the officer’s appearance nor does she represent the Met whilst appearing on the show.”
The force added that any officer found to have breached police standards of professional behaviour could face misconduct proceedings.
The 29-year-old UK based, who was once a ‘poster girl’ for the promotion of female and black staff for Met Police and earns about £30,000 a year, was said to have forcefully left her job for the show.
It was also reported that the authorities made the move to start an investigation as she became the talk of the show after videos of her having sex with her love interest Gedoni went viral online.
Her TV appearances have left colleagues unimpressed. Speaking on the issue, an unnamed colleague told The SUN newspaper: “She’s a serving British police officer – it’s outrageous.
“She asked permission to go on the show but, when her request was refused, she went anyway.”
Another Met source said: “There should be no way back for her from this and her superiors will have to act.
“She fitted the mould perfectly for how the modern force wants to portray itself but seems to have got a bit too big for her boots.
“It’s hard to see how can she argue that she hasn’t brought the force into disrepute.”
Meanwhile, Khafi is currently up for possible eviction.
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